Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Juanita's Appointment

This is Tuesday and I will pick up Juanita in Independence at 10:30 AM and take her to her doctor's appointment in Bartlesville. Her appointment is at 1:00 but we will have lunch in Bartlesville before the appointment. Juanita is 87 and has macular degeneration and can no longer drive except just around Independence. It has been in remission for a year or so now.

After her daughter's death, Juanita's granddaughter thought she should have her mother's car. Juanita was on the title because Christi wanted Juanita to have it. Christi's name was on Juanita's car too just in case Juanita died first. Juanita was also the beneficiary of her daughter's insurance and she paid for the funeral and all the expenses connected with it.

So, since the funeral, her granddaughter has not spoken to her. What a tragedy! It is unmentionable that money should come between relatives. I don't know who Juanita will call if anything happens to her. Possibly it will have to be Harry's daughter or son. Harry is Juanita's deceased husband. She now lives alone except for her two dogs and her cat.


Judy said...

How sad and like you said a tragedy that people put money ahead of a person in their life. She is so lucky to have you for a friend, Margie.

Margie's Musings said...

I am not her only friend, Judy. She is a very nice person.

I really hate what her granddaughter has done to her. At 87, she shouldn't have to deal with it.

Betty said...

She is lucky that you are one of her friends. I think it is sad when children or grandchildren develop a sense of entitlement to the estates of their relatives. I knew a couple of families whose daughters tried to keep their parents from having loving relationships that might lead to marriage because they were afraid the new spouse whould inherit something, thus keeping them from what they had come to view as rightfully theirs.

Margie's Musings said...

Yes, I have a dear friend whose daughter feels that way. Her mother recently married after seven years as a widow and the daughter is having a hard time with it. In this case, it's not the money that is the issue. It is the relationship that she feels is at risk...her affection.